A few years ago, before I became a Wedding Emcee, I was a guest at my cousin’s reception when her new uncle-in-law decided to give a toast.  He took the microphone from the DJ, stood in the middle of the dance floor and proceeded to talk for 15minutes.  When he felt his drunk legs were getting too unstable, he just pulled up a chair, sat in the middle of the dance floor and continued to talk for another 10 minutes.

A few years ago, before I became a Wedding Emcee, I was a guest at my cousin’s reception when her new uncle-in-law decided to give a toast.  He took the microphone from the DJ, stood in the middle of the dance floor and proceeded to talk for 15minutes.  When he felt his drunk legs were getting too unstable, he just pulled up a chair, sat in the middle of the dance floor and continued to talk for another 10 minutes.

If you are planning your own special day, you can imagine how embarrassing a drunk toast could be.

Here are five reminders to a memorable wedding:

1) Control the microphone: In so many weddings, a DJ sets up the audio system, announces events, but then let the microphone just lays there therefore anyone to take.  Make sure you have someone who is in control of the mic.  This means both keeping the spotlight from those who abuse the privilege, and encouraging those who might otherwise be too shy to speak speak to share their heartfelt wishes.   This role should be done by a professional emcee or an engaging and responsible friend who can help minimize the unexpected and maximize the positive, leaving the bride and groom to relax and enjoy their wedding.  

2) Create interactive moments:  The traditional reception already has its own flow. But to make the reception come to life, it is essential to create fun and meaningful interactive moments that entertain and connect two sides of the family.  Give guest fun tasks during cocktail hour, like meeting five people that they do not yet know.  If dinner is a buffet, release guests to join food line with a fun quiz about the bride and groom. If desired by the bride and groom, play an interactive game that gets the whole crowd involved.  The key is to keep the energy of the event high through dinner into dancing so your guests can party till the end.

3) Honor the parents:  This act of respect can be particularly powerful if bride and groom direct their toasts to their respective in-laws.  If the bride and groom are from different cultures try using parents’ native language, even if it is just an awkward phrase. This simple gesture will probably mean more to parents and those of their generation than anything else at the wedding.

4) Tell your love story:  Many of your guests might have heard the story of how you met and how you decided to take the big step into marriage, but most likely they heard “her side” or “his side” of the story.  You can create a photo slideshow or a video that will tell the “whole story” in a meaning, interesting and entertaining way. Limit the time to 10 to 15 minutes so it will leave a lasting impression in the minds of your guests.  

5) Make your own wedding: Many couple say that they do not want anything unusual in their wedding reception, but what they really mean is that they do not want anything cheesy, fake or embarrassing, but neither do they want their wedding to feel cookie cutter.  Here is how Jerry and Tess personalized their your reception. Since they met while water skiing on Lake Washington, they decided to make a grand entrance into the banquet hall by having their bridal party pulled them into the banquet hall while standing on their water skis. The key is to highlight the special part of your relationship and incorporate that in your wedding.

Leo Novsky is a Master of Wedding Receptions and Ceremonies in Seattle area.  For more information about his wedding services and workshop, contact him at leo@leonovsky.com

 

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